My confidence in every area of my life had taken a hit. Men love doing their own thing, and they love a woman who does her own thing even more. The ones when you have to move your stuff out. He will want his own space and really appreciate you if you give it to him. He also surfs like a boss, speaks at conferences all over, and has traveled the globe. Hang out with your friends, go for a meal with your sister, have drinks after work, and after a certain amount of time you will both start doing many of these things together.