Be a happy, single lesbian and maybe one day, your Hayley Kiyoko will fall into your lap. Either find a Tumblr girlfriend or venture into the world of apps. Although Her was a better app, you still see the same people over and over. The other issue with apps like Her is that no one wants to message each other first. It has also widened the avenues of meeting the right one. Caitlin McLaughlin November 8, at 8: It's okay to be nervous about how to approach that girl that we ran into at the bookstore or on line at the coffee shop; we just have to remember that the only way that anything can happen is if we put ourselves out there.